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Started by ctrlaltdelete (chris) in Chit-Chat

yesterday I found out a long time friend had had a total breakdown and hung himself.He never had that many breaks in life, and was very unlucky in many different ways, but he spent his life doing everything he could, and to best of his ability.He was keeping himself busy, but eventually couldn’t take anymore.I’m not going to go into detail, but I don’t know, I wanted people to realise, that although you could have the shittest time in your life and feel so low and lonely, there probably are people out there that would be upset and hurt if anyhing ever did happen to you.Andy Smith was too scared to ask for help, when really he should have.Now there are peole from all over the country going to his funeral this week.It works the other way as well, never be too afraid of asking someone if they are ok, chances are they will be very grateful.

Posted on Mon, 20 November 2006 at 00:45

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Muskeg (Yes, It's me.) wrote:

Probably because life is actually horrendous. It’s the shittiest thing I can think of.

I can’t think of anything I enjoy or look forward to.

Every day is just another fucking mountain climb.

The day I am happy is the day george W Bush gets into Mensa.

Posted on Mon, 20 November 2006 at 01:11

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mrs h wrote:

ctrlaltdelete wrote:

Andy Smith was too scared to ask for help, when really he should have… It works the other way as well, never be too afraid of asking someone if they are ok, chances are they will be very grateful.

It’s true - and even if they don’t thank you for it at the time they may remember later, and you have opened the door for them to ask for help if they need it.

When I was young a friend of mine hung himself, leaving a partner and 2 young kids. He was only 20. Nobody had any idea that he was feeling so bad, even his closest friends. He didn’t have any problems that anyone knew of. When they found him he had photos of things he loved spread all over the place. I hope it’s because he wanted to take happy thoughts with him, and not that he was trying to talk himself round but couldn’t do it. It’s weird, but I feel terrible thinking about it now, because I have kids that age and it’s only just dawned on me that he was just a child himself - I thought about it, but I never really understood what his parents must have gone through :(

If anyone is wondering, I just can’t sleep …

Posted on Mon, 20 November 2006 at 03:35

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andys gibson sg (James Harris) wrote:

well said ctrlaltdelete ;)

Posted on Mon, 20 November 2006 at 16:26

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buffalo-boy wrote:

There was a time in my life when I was down all the time…I was bright at school, always happy etc but when I was 18/19 I was on the dole, had a shit car, couldn’t pull a bird to save my life and was basically a loser.
My best mate told me to get lost if I was gonna be so miserable all the time, that was about as low as it could go when all my friends were getting on with life and i was left in the dust hating everything. BUT i never gave up. The moral to MY story is keep going: things have to get better! I’m still a loser to loads of people probably but who cares?!! ;)

Posted on Tue, 21 November 2006 at 09:20

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Dermot (The Derm) wrote:

Hey, I’d kill for a shit car! :p

Posted on Tue, 21 November 2006 at 09:46

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buffalo-boy wrote:

You can have my last one then - that blew up too!
Citroen ZX, petrol, all kinds of weird and wonderful colours, 115,000 on the clock, no radiator or head gasket…or headlights where the exploded radiator blew them out..!

Yours for just £1,495 sir! ;)

Posted on Tue, 21 November 2006 at 13:13

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Dermot (The Derm) wrote:

Failed my driving test last Summer, haven’t bothered to re-sit - so the money will have to stay in my pocket for now I’m afraid ;)

Posted on Tue, 21 November 2006 at 13:31

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Auto_Surgery (Mad Axe Man) wrote:

I’ve had a come down from hell since last week and was feelin pretty lost and empty this week, imagine my supprise when a thread appears about someone who’s lost and has the same name as me… yes thats right I to am called Andy Smith.

I’m going to take this as a sign to clean myself up

Posted on Tue, 21 November 2006 at 16:40

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ctrlaltdelete (chris) wrote:

the funeral is thursday 30th,,,dont know if I want to go.There’ll be a load of guys I used to knock about with…I’m worried I’ll have to carry the coffin again.I get the feeling I ‘ll be reminded of how lucky I was to move away.

Posted on Wed, 22 November 2006 at 03:06

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marja (sinner) wrote:

I think you should go, it will help you to put this in perspective, and it will help his family to see his friends care

Posted on Wed, 22 November 2006 at 10:22

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fatboy wrote:

I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. I suffer mental illness myself and have done so for the last eight years. I take medication but its not the be all end all. I have suicidel thoughts and methods of topping myself, only to tell myself that there are things in life were going for - form a band, be a writer, have a dream and take it as far I can take it.

I started a thread called ‘dealing with a loss’ and it became very theraputic. A friend of mine passed away after fighting cancer for years, and I grieved and went to his funeral, thinking I was going to break down. Thankfully, I didn’t, felt proud of him when we raised a class to his memory.

You should go to the funeral, just to say goodbye. I don’t know if my illness will cease, but I take each day as it comes.

Be strong.

Posted on Wed, 22 November 2006 at 12:30

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