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Started by Blonde Blade in Chit-Chat

Alright, i’m back. Fresh in on a monday morning and with a nice embarrasing story that i thought i’d share with y’all.

I took the ‘advice’ (:D) that a few people were handing out last week - i got very very drunk on saturday night and made a pass at this guy i like (this was at a party at his house). He was quite surprised because he thought i was still married (i can see why that might have been confusing…), but once i’d corrected him on that point he seemed quite enthusiastic. Of course, it all went wrong after that, because i kept on drinking and ended up stumbling upstairs and getting into bed with who i thought was the same guy, but turned out to be someone completely different (hey, it was dark). I only realised when i called him the wrong name, and by that point it was a bit difficult to just make my excuses and leave.

ANYWAY, i finally got back downstairs, found the correct bloke and tried to explain the mistake to him, but for some reason he didn’t seem very impressed. I finally convinced him it was all a misunderstanding, we had a couple more drinks and a bit of a snog, but he kept jumping every time someone walked into the room… i don’t know, maybe he was embarrassed to be seen with me… :)

I don’t remember getting home, but in the morning i woke up and realised i’d left several things round at the guy’s house, including my PS2, a DVD, a plastic severed arm, and my bra. I went back round in the afternoon and got the important stuff back, but didn’t really feel up to asking after the missing item of clothing. The guy was friendly enough, but i think it was just the ‘maybe if i smile politely and pretend i don’t remember what happened last night the crazy girl will go away and leave me alone’ sort of look.

So that was my weekend. I have learnt that alcohol is an evil, EVIL thing, it has left me short my self-respect and a vital item of clothing. I’m now going to go hide in a corner and enjoy my three-day-hangover.

Posted on Mon, 28 October 2002 at 14:15

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#1

Paddy wrote:

You should have taken them both in the room darlin’. In the words of Paul Weller “Thats Entertainment” !!!!

Posted on Mon, 28 October 2002 at 16:07

#2

Blonde Blade wrote:

Yeah, entertainment for everyone but me… :(

Posted on Mon, 28 October 2002 at 17:03

#3

White Psycho wrote:

isn’t it always the same? You go round someone’s house then next morning you realise “Damn! I’ve left my plastic severed arm there!” ;)

Posted on Mon, 28 October 2002 at 20:06

#4

hoochalobster (Sarah) Super Moderator wrote:

Heh heh, I’ve never known the “But I thought he was you” line to go down well.

Ne’er mind, we’ve all been there sometime. I once woke up in my then boyfriend’s housemate’s bed and had a complete panic attack as I couldn’t remember the night before. Lucky for me the trusty bloke had merely found me in a drunken heap on his bed and kindly taken to the sofa :)

Posted on Tue, 29 October 2002 at 03:00

#5

Blonde Blade wrote:

Well, there’s a first time for everything to work, because he called me last night!!! It was so cute, we just talked for ages and he asked if i wanted to go to see 28 Days Later - how damn romantic is that?? :D If i ever critisize anyone from here’s advice ever again just hit me, okay? Well, i’m off to do the happy dance all round the office, bye now!

Love, Happy Dude xxx

Posted on Tue, 29 October 2002 at 09:55

#6

Alan wrote:

Hey hey! Gld someone’s gonna get some :-)

I spent all Friday night chatting up a girl (well, she’s a friend of my sister and 33, but, she still fine!) but didn’t make a move. I would love to though. Older woman and all that!

Then all night Saturday, chatted to some girl but didn’t get anywhere, dammit. Why do girls chat to you all night but don’t ‘dp’ anything? I guess she was just being polite, huh?

I think I’ll take my own advice: get smashed and jump on the first thing I find with a pulse…

Posted on Tue, 29 October 2002 at 10:30

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Alan wrote:

Er, that should be ‘do’ as ‘dp’ doesn’t appear to be a word!

Posted on Tue, 29 October 2002 at 10:31

#8

Blonde Blade wrote:

I must admit that it’s taken eight months or so to find something with a pulse that didn’t say ‘urgh, gerroff me!’ as soon as i jumped them… mind you, i’ve been setting my sights a little high recently - there’s been a whole load of junior doctors wandering around at my work these past few months, but none of them seemed to be interested… stoopid intellectuals.

Anyway, i’m not really sure whether things are going to work out or not with this new guy, so i’m going to have to just keep my fingers and toes crossed and see what happens…

Oh, btw, my bra turned up. Someone else had taken it home by mistake. How do these things happen? :)

Posted on Tue, 29 October 2002 at 13:57

#9

Citizen Erased wrote:

Drinking on a school night - never a good idea, not feeling too lovely this morning! Still, was worth it - a colleague is escaping this currently depressing office to go and work in Kazakhstan, so had to say good luck to him.

Going to have a little nap in the toilet I think

Any news on the new guy BB? Hope the bra’s behaving itself.

Posted on Fri, 1 November 2002 at 09:27

#10

Blonde Blade wrote:

:D Well, things seem to be going okay at the moment. It’s all a bit complicated though, because he’s just come out of a long relationship and his ex-girlfriend isn’t over him in the slightest. He phoned me last night to say he’d told his ex about us… and oh boy, now i feel guilty. What do you do with psycho ex-girlfriends? I know it’s not really my fault (they’ve been spilt up for about six weeks), but i still feel kinda bad about it… It doesn’t really help that i’ve been getting lectured by my parents, my friends, and some complete stranger on the street, because (technically) i’m still married, even though we broke up nearly nine months ago. I’m beginning to think that relationships are just too much hard work… oh well, i’m sure it’ll sort itself out, eventually.

And i’ll keep a close eye on my bra this time! ;)

Posted on Fri, 1 November 2002 at 10:48

#11

Alan wrote:

Blonde Blade wrote:

And i’ll keep a close eye on my bra this time! ;)

I wouldn’t mind keeping a close eye myself :-) !!!

As for relationships, the longest I was with someone was about a year and it was hard work. I think I’ll stay away from relationships for a LONG time!

I just wanna get drunk and head-bang. As well as bang a few other things, of course! :-)

Posted on Fri, 1 November 2002 at 11:06

#12

Citizen Erased wrote:

Bras, suspender belts, whatever, we can all help here, if needed ;)

Am looking for ways out of my 7 year relationship with my current employer though… THAT feels like a lifetime.

Posted on Fri, 1 November 2002 at 11:49

#13

Karl wrote:

BB you told me that IOM could be boring at times, are you kidding? so much fun on island where you can’t escape from. Sounds cool to me!!

Posted on Fri, 1 November 2002 at 12:34

#14

Blonde Blade wrote:

My last (and longest) relationship was nearly five years and that was WAY too long for my liking. I think this one is going to be pretty damn short… which i guess is a shame. The weekend got a bit weird though, because my lovely new boyfriend had to run off halfway through saturday night to go meet his not-so-lovely ex-girlfriend who kept calling him EVERY FIVE MINUTES to ask what he was doing. He made the mistake of telling her as well… ;) I just seem to have a habit of picking awkward relationships!

And the only reason i do so much stupid stuff is because there’s nothing else to do on this island!! Getting drunk, headbanging and losing underwear is just a way of staving off the insanity… :D

Posted on Mon, 4 November 2002 at 14:59

#15

Citizen Erased wrote:

Be careful with the underwear - it’s chilly this time of year.

Relationships are weird - have gone from thinking that I might get dumped, to everything being rosy, to my girlfriend telling me that I deserved someone better than her. All in the space of this weekend.

Posted on Mon, 4 November 2002 at 15:17

#16

Blonde Blade wrote:

Yeah, i’ve been getting so much hassle about this new guy i’m beginning to wonder if it’s really worth it. Apart from the psycho-ex-girlfriend thing, my parents think it’s ‘too soon’ for me to be seeing someone else (nine months!), my sister’s stopped talking to me, and one of my male friends (who, admittedly, has been a ‘close’ friend in the past) went nuts at me for not telling him i had a new boyfriend! Geez. Why is it if you sleep with someone you automatically have to start telling them everything that happens in your life?? I haven’t even thought about telling my ex-husband, and judging by how much crap i’m getting already, i really don’t want to. The only people who seem to be happy are me and the guy in question, but we’re not getting any time to ourselves because we’ve got so much outside interference going on. *heartfelt sigh*

Okay, sorry, i didn’t mean to go off on one. I can’t really talk to anyone i know (because they’re all in a mood with me and/or not talking to me), so i thought i’d take it out on you guys. Never mind. I’m sure it’ll uncomplicate itself eventually…

Posted on Mon, 4 November 2002 at 15:42

#17

Citizen Erased wrote:

Feel free to get it all off your chest, excluding the bra (unless you really want to).

9 months doesn’t sound too short a time to start seeing someone - it’s not like you’ve proposed to them (I assume)? So I’d go for it - if things work out okay, then everyone else will stop hassling you. Don’t see why it would be any concern of your ex’s though.

And on the topic of sleeping with people, tomorrow is the anniversary of me losing my virginity. A reason, I feel, to celebrate. :)

Posted on Mon, 4 November 2002 at 17:25

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hoochalobster (Sarah) Super Moderator wrote:

BB - I have a friend who has been in virtually the same position as you regarding ex-girlfriend in the picture. After months of hassle (and destroying her boyfriend’s mobile twice, just to stop the incessant calls) she discovered the solution - setting crazy-ex up with a new man! It has worked a treat and she is now enjoying her chap in peace. Of course this rather depends on finding an eligible bachelor keen to take on the emotional baggage of a psycholady - so good luck with that!

I know what you mean about family / friends interfering too. When I left my husband I incurred the wrath of pretty much everyone I knew, especially since I went straight into another relationship. Nine months seems like a plenty big space - wide enough for everyone to see you’re not going back to the ex anyhoo. I’m sure they’ll get over it once they see that you’re serious :)

Posted on Mon, 4 November 2002 at 23:43

#19

Blonde Blade wrote:

Aw, cheers everyone, i appreciate that! I actually heard a fantastic rumour (but unfortunately probably nothing more than that) that my ex had got drunk and slept with my boyfriend’s ex! Wow, i would give so much for that to be true!! Not even Eastenders could set something up so neatly… :D

Well, my boyfriend has just announced that he’s off to Liverpool this weekend with a bunch of friends… including his ex-girlfriend. And i’m not invited. Booo! Actually, i think i’m okay with it. We’ve only been going out for just over a week so i’m not going to start telling him what to do, and he needs to sort out his baggage himself.

My friends all seem to be fine with the new guy though (which is worrying in itself - they have NEVER approved of one of my boyfriends before), but my dad totally surprised me by saying he thought me and my ex-husband would be getting back together! I’ve done everything but beat him over the head with the fact that it’s not going to happen, but he obviously didn’t believe me.

PS. Congrats Citizen! :D

Posted on Tue, 5 November 2002 at 15:00

#20

Citizen Erased wrote:

The anniversary was spent 300 miles from my girlfriend, not watching fireworks, so disappointingly few bangs.

Things nearly didn’t happen in the first place because the young lady concerned was being very clingy, given that we’d only recently started going out, so you’re definitely right (IMHO) to give people space at the start of a relationship (preachy me - like I’m an expert, ha!).

Posted on Wed, 6 November 2002 at 08:34

#21

Blonde Blade wrote:

It’s finding the right balance between being clingy and not paying enough attention i suppose. Anyway, i’m supposed to be introducing my boyfriend to my parents tonight - argh! Actually, my parents are okay, just the average amount of weird and embarrassing. I’m going to be spared meeting his parents because they live in Dubai! That’s so convinient! I really didn’t like my last lot of in-laws… they were the type of people who have white carpets and white furniture in their house, give your kid a carton of ribena to drink and blame you for the resulting mess.

Posted on Wed, 6 November 2002 at 15:56

#22

White Psycho wrote:

my RE teacher wished her mother in law would die, then found out she had terminal cancer. She felt guilty for a while but it passed

Posted on Wed, 6 November 2002 at 16:00

#23

Blonde Blade wrote:

How on earth did she get a job as an RE teacher?? :D Isn’t wishing people dead slightly un-Christian?

Posted on Wed, 6 November 2002 at 16:12

#24

White Psycho wrote:

you don’t have to be christian to be an RE teacher, I’m an atheist and I do RE. Besides on your wedding day you don’t expect to hear your mother in law say you look awful do you?

Posted on Wed, 6 November 2002 at 16:15

#25

Citizen Erased wrote:

My girlfriend was supposed to introduce me to her parents 3 months after we met. Instead her mum came to the railway station without her to pick me up, having only ever seen photos of me before - when she found me, she said ‘you’re the first strange man I’ve talked to today’. She then proceeded to ask me about my car crash (3 360s and no injuries), which my girlfriend had ask her not to, and then asked to see the photos of us from a fancy dress party a few daysprevious, when we’d both gone as angels/fairies in little white dresses and suspenders…

Posted on Thu, 7 November 2002 at 09:03

#26

Blonde Blade wrote:

White Psycho wrote:

you don’t have to be christian to be an RE teacher, I’m an atheist and I do RE. Besides on your wedding day you don’t expect to hear your mother in law say you look awful do you?

Hmm, i always assumed it would help being an RE teacher if you were Christian as well… Our RE teacher was a creationist - he also taught science, but refused to teach us about evolution or fossils because he didn’t believe it… You’re right though, that’s a pretty harsh thing to say to someone on their wedding day.

Citizen - i wanna see those pictures too!! :D

Posted on Thu, 7 November 2002 at 12:15

#27

Citizen Erased wrote:

It wasn’t a pretty sight, but the party was good and it led to a girl that I used to like and who treated me somewhat rubbishly, seemingly getting jealous of both my girlfriend (first time they’d met), and the attention our outfits got, so overall a fantastic night.

Most worrying thing about the pictures is how much older I look now, which is one of the reasons they’re staying hidden.

Posted on Thu, 7 November 2002 at 12:53

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Kyra wrote:

don’t wanna sound gloomy, and maybe this is not even the right place to talk about something like this (there’s never a right place to discuss such matters)…but what are you supposed to do when - let’s get this straight, shall we - when you’re husband has just died. you’re widow. nevermind the pain, the sorrow, the tears. that’s not my point, right here right now.
after a while you meet somebody. some guy who already knew you even before you got married suddenly calls you and blah blah blah.
it might be an embarassing situation; your mother-in-law hates you. her son was everything she had and now she’s alone and she can’t accept you’re with somebody else.
but it’s a lot more complicated than that. of course.
you still can’t believe what happened and you feel as though you never will and you wonder…is it better to stay on your own for the rest of your life cuz you can’t get your husband out of your mind (and every morning you wake up next to somebody else you wish it was him, and every guy who talks to you you wish your husband was talking to you), OR compromise…and be with somebody you’re not able to love, just to help you forget…
and feeling guilty for your new boyfriend cuz you’d just like to give more but you can’t. and he knows what’s going on in your heart yet pretends he doesn’t, for the sake of being with you..

oh no, what have i done what have i done. sorry about that. just pretend you haven’t read it. didn’t mean to sadden you all.

Posted on Thu, 7 November 2002 at 15:10

#29

ixx wrote:

the truth is, anyone can fall in love many times after losing someone they’ve loved. if you don’t go for someone new, you’ll just sulk for the rest of your life about that person. this doesn’t need to happen.. you have to remember the person, but move on.. but give it time before you go for another relationship..don’t rush things because you’ll end up comparing everyone to the person who died. you’ll fall in love..if you’re not in love with the person as much as the last person, keep looking. about the mother in law thing, it’s better to make yourself happy first then trying to make others happy. no use in being miserable for the rest of your life to please others

Posted on Thu, 7 November 2002 at 15:40

#30

White Psycho wrote:

tell the mother in law to mind her own business, its nothing to do with her. Its not her place to dictate what you can and can’t do

Posted on Thu, 7 November 2002 at 16:47

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