Wall of Mouths

maybe we should change the name of this thread to

“jordan, id like to hack at her with a blunt instrument some more”

:D

fatboy wrote:

Hmmm, what is it with these threads changing subject matter.

Comedy. The best therapy.

No, my fantacies are all sexual and unfit for this dicussion.

No, really.

I am in a stinking mood right now. I’ve had one of those days where all your busses are 15 mins late…the ONE thing you wanted to do doesnt work…then your’e in a stinking mood so you cant even be bothered to do the 2nd thing on your list… :mad: So you go play guitar to try and have a bit of fun - then you just cannot be bothered :(…crap.

Squall, how many buses were you waiting for??

Got an appointment for counselling tomorrow, so I can get all the shit out of my system.

Other than that, life’s been okay, nothing perfect, a few sleepless nights that trigger voices, but at least I’m not at that point of wanting to down a few bottles of pill or slit my wrists in the bath.

See my myspace blog to see how I’m coming along.

@ efilnikufesin:

I know exactly what you mean! I started working recently and it was ok.. everyone seems pretty allright apart from this one bastard. He’s rude to me basically any opportunity he gets and sometimes barges me out of the way. The other day I was tying up a rubbish bag at the work bench and a woman (whose bag it was) was waiting for me to move so she could continue working. Well this bastard comes up and he says to her “move” and she says “No because he’s in the way” and he says “So what, it’s only (Viirkokka)”. Well I felt like turning to this guy and saying “Hey; fuck you, you fat ugly mother fucker”. But I didn’t … and I don’t know why. I think it’s because I was kneeling down and wasn’t in a position of power, but normally I wouldn’t stand for that.

I’m pretty sure he was being rude because he’s an elitist cunt. He’s been working there years and I’ve just started so he figures he’s the bomb.

Though I don’t know if being rude to colleagues is the way forward.. you could certainly take the guy aside and ask him to tone it down and not be so rude. Shouting at him or being snide back probably won’t achieve anything.

If someone asks you to do something, when they should do it, or you shouldn’t be doing it… well.. you just shouldn’t do it! If it’s something like he asks for a drink and you happen to be by the sink.. fair enough. But you wouldn’t clean someones shoes or fill out their tax forms ‘cause they asked. The other day I was camping in a field with friends and when I arrived this guy I didn’t even know comes up to me and says “Did you just arrive?” and I replied “Yes” so he handed tent pegs my way and goes “Put up the tents then..” and I took them out his hand, chucked them on the floor and said “Put your own fucking tent up you wanker”. He walked off and didn’t bother me.

either that or wait for him outside his house at night with a big stick and offer some ‘re-education’…

…actually - maybe don’t :D

@ nisefuckinlife ( I really can’t spell it backwards, I tried!)

I totally sympathise with you, and I honestly think you need to make a note of the dates and times when he is so rude to you, and what he actually said or did. You can never tell with situations like this whether they are likely to get better or worse, but it could be classed as bullying and/or harrassment, and if the point comes in the future that you feel you do need to leave you might have enough evidence to show ‘constructive dismissal’, which is basically that you were forced to give up your job because of preventable personal problems at work.

I do know someone who has gone through very similar stuff quite recently, so if you want any practical guidance or info please feel free to send me a private message and I’ll give you all the info I can :)

And don’t beat yourself up about being nervous around strangers - the guy is a dickhead anyway, and you mouthing off at him wouldn’t help at all.

And don’t just walk out of your job - it’s your job and your wage and you have every right to be there AND to be treated with respect :)

How about being told by everyone you ever meet that youve definitley got a future in music - when everything you do thats music related fails miserably ? That’ll help you sleep easy at night :(

Thanx for the advice there folks, good to know that there are some people left in the world that arent total arseholes. got a few ideas from your replies on what to do about the problem, obviously in a perferct world a hanging would be in order but that aint gonna happen so ill try to sort something out. What a ridiculous situation. cheers!