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Started by Punkwak (Tijn) in Chit-Chat

I’ve got a new collega and he isa really nice person with lots of personal problems, only his problem is that he needs a drink (alcoholic) after 2 hours because he can’t stop shaking!! I I have to work harder to keep everyhing in the right way! he is 48 years now and his wife left him some time ago! need help in this for reaction> cheers

Posted on Fri, 18 July 2008 at 22:23

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Evilbeast (Dany Brillant) wrote:

if it’s still going like this for the following weeks for you,Will you complain to your boss?because you’re not paid to do the job of 2 people!!!!

Posted on Fri, 18 July 2008 at 22:39

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deadsetgav wrote:

Aren’t you in the army?

Posted on Fri, 18 July 2008 at 23:03

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Evilbeast (Dany Brillant) wrote:

ah,sorry if I may have appeared rude on my previous answer…But I used to know same situation as Tijn did in the past so reading ,that at first ,made me on my nerves …Well,Tijn, at first ,you could try to speak to your colleague and make him understand in a friendly way that all is about work and he should stop drinking at workplace and your shoulders can’t stand for all the tasks.

Posted on Fri, 18 July 2008 at 23:55

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deadsetgav wrote:

No - I meant isn’t Punkwak in the military… I wasn’t having a go at you Evilbeast!

I’m sure I read in a previous post he had been deployed somewhere really dangerous and was getting shot at… If that is the case and a colleague is ‘hitting the bottle’ its not really a good situation to be in if this guy is supposed to be watching his back.

Then again he could work as a traffic warden - if so, I hope he gets all he deserves :D

Posted on Sat, 19 July 2008 at 07:38

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Punkwak (Tijn) wrote:

Yeah i got out the army in early februari this year!! safely :o) I am now manager of a store in furniture! 3 people to manage, so not so difficult but this problem i never had before!! deadsetgave you’ve got a good memorie!! :) tnx evilbeast for your reaction!!

cheers.. in my case :) not my collega’s

Posted on Sat, 19 July 2008 at 09:49

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deadsetgav wrote:

Evilbeast makes a good point. I’d tell your workmate you have a problem with the way he is acting before going to the boss - People with alcohol problems dont usually think they have a problem or bother about the way it affects the people around them - maybe a quiet word explaining things from your point of view might make him think about what he is doing.

He probably doesn’t realise that he is causing you hassle. If he continues after you talk to him then go to your boss.

If they are good employers they will try to help him with his situation - if they are bad ones they’ll sack his drunken arse! Either way you won’t have to carry the burden.

Posted on Sat, 19 July 2008 at 10:28

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mrs h wrote:

I would normally agree with Gav, but to be honest if he is having DTs at work then his alcohol problem is already out of control. I think the guy is going to end up getting sacked whatever you do.

Posted on Sat, 19 July 2008 at 11:06

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Kill_Hill (Brendan) wrote:

by law the employer is ment to help the employee to get some help, thats how it works in Ireland anyway.

Posted on Tue, 22 July 2008 at 09:17

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buffalo-boy wrote:

I thought in Ireland they just went and got another round in!

No offence meant just in case your one of those politically correct type people!

Posted on Tue, 22 July 2008 at 12:25

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Dennis wrote:

I wish I knew the answer to this one.

We have a friend who is struggling with an alcohol problem. It’s dead easy from the outside to say “do this” or “do that” but of course he just agrees with what we say, tells us what we want to hear and lies to us so we don’t feel let down when he has a drink.

:( A very sad situation.

Be as goos a friend to him as you can, as in listen to his problems etc , but don’t be tempted to think that as a friend you can’t drop him in trouble with his employers or you can’t tell him what he’s doing is out of order. Sometimes being a good friend involves being a bastard, but for the right reasons…

Posted on Tue, 22 July 2008 at 13:14

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Dennis wrote:

“as GOOD a friend”, even

Posted on Tue, 22 July 2008 at 13:14

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mrs h wrote:

He’s not his friend though - he’s just got saddled with him at work…

Posted on Tue, 22 July 2008 at 19:23

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Dennis wrote:

Right…and that makes a difference because…?

Posted on Wed, 23 July 2008 at 08:13

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mrs h wrote:

“Be as goos a friend to him as you can, as in listen to his problems etc ”

Should read:

“tell him to stop harrassing you whilst you’re busy trying to do his job and get some real mates to moan at”

Apart from that you were doing ok :p

Posted on Wed, 23 July 2008 at 18:12

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deadsetgav wrote:

buffalo-boy wrote:

I thought in Ireland they just went and got another round in!

No offence meant just in case your one of those politically correct type people!

http://goldenpages.ie/search/Ireland/sober_people.html :D

Posted on Wed, 23 July 2008 at 18:26 in reply to an earlier post

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fatboy wrote:

I’m sorry to hear about this, and I wish I could help.

Posted on Thu, 24 July 2008 at 00:28

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Punkwak (Tijn) wrote:

tnx for your all your help around!! cheers

Posted on Thu, 24 July 2008 at 21:10

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Punkwak (Tijn) wrote:

tnx for all the comments made i mean!! :) cheers

Posted on Thu, 24 July 2008 at 21:11

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