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Started by Body Bag Girl Iris in Chit-Chat

Maybe a strange question, but what is the biggest age difference youve had in a relationship and how old where you at that time. I mean if you are 80 and your boy/girl is 70 it’s not such a big deal, but what if you are 27 and he/she is 17… Just wondering…
Please let me know!
Iris

Posted on Wed, 24 September 2003 at 22:15

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hoochalobster (Sarah) Super Moderator wrote:

Are you going to tell us why?!

I suppose you’re right - how old you are does make it relative. When I was 14 my boyfriend was 17 and that seemed like quite a big gap (to my mother at least ;)). I think the biggest age gap I’ve had is 8 years (me 18, bloke 26) but that didn’t seem like much.

I don’t really think it matters anyway :)

Posted on Wed, 24 September 2003 at 22:49

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Krisken wrote:

I’m 26, and I can’t imagine dating an 18 year old… not because of the age itself, but because of the difference in experiences and even the differences of what this kind of relationship would mean to each participant. I get hit on by 16 year olds (cause I look too damn young!), but wouldn’t consider for a second taking these young ladies out, simply because they havn’t had the experience as far as relationships go.

Posted on Wed, 24 September 2003 at 23:04

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Lola* wrote:

another thing is that its more acceptable if the guy is older…people would be way more understanding of a relationship between a 27 yr old guy and a 17 yr old gal…but if it was a 27yr old gal and a 17yr old guy she’d propbably be put in a hole and stoned!!!

Posted on Wed, 24 September 2003 at 23:18

#4

Sabotage wrote:

I’m *cough* 40… and my missus is 32.
We’ve been together since I was 30 and she 22.
We’ve never found the age gap a problem…although it does mean that she tends to like cheesy 80’s hair metal bands. :D

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 08:20

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Jello Biafra wrote:

I was 21 and she was 32 at the time..

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 09:58

#6

zm wrote:

I was 17, my ex 23. Not a problem at all. It’s just that most people think I’m 6 years younger so then the agedifference would have been 12 years! Haha… The difference now is only 4 years. Probably a cliche, but it really is just about how old you feel. As long as the magic is doing its job and trust is not a subject of doubt, you shouldn’t worry…*

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 10:10

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allroy wrote:

Ich war 16 und sie 31…
…und es war Sommer.

For all you Peter Maffay lovers out there :D

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 10:19

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Body Bag Girl Iris’ post on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 11:50 was deleted by a moderator

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Body Bag Girl Iris wrote:

hoochalobster wrote:

Are you going to tell us why?!

Well… I’ve met this guy and he’s only 22. I’m 28, normally I would only date men that are about 10 years older, so this is a big difference. I can talk to him about so many things I normally can’t talk to with 28+… it’s so strange, ‘cause I do think about his age all the time.
Nothing is happening and we are just friends right now, but I do maybe like him a bit more :D So now you know ;)

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 11:59

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donVutz wrote:

allroy wrote:

For all you Peter Maffay lovers out there :D

there really are things like Peter Maffay lovers?:eek: what has this world come to?

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 16:10

#11

Daisy wrote:

My boyfriend is 41, I am 18, soon to be 19. (Its a 22 year gap, that depending on the time of year is 23 years)

We have been going out for over 2 years now.

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 17:33

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RobbyVDH wrote:

Body Bag Girl Iris wrote:

Nothing is happening and we are just friends right now, but I do maybe like him a bit more :D

AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH that means you will completely forget about me :D ??

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 18:05

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smurftastic wrote:

I was 18, he was 26. The relationship lasted 10 years and we have a wonderful son together. We are still very good friends even though we no longer live together. The age difference didn’t seem to cause us any problems at all.

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 18:24

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trigger wrote:

Daisy wrote:

My boyfriend is 41, I am 18, soon to be 19. (Its a 22 year gap, that depending on the time of year is 23 years)

We have been going out for over 2 years now.

you gotta be kidding, right?
if not why do you call him ‘boy’friend? :p

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 19:18

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Lola* wrote:

ah ah don’t be mean…remember ur only as old as the person u feel…so in that case he’s only 18!!!

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 19:36

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hoochalobster (Sarah) Super Moderator wrote:

@Iris - well if you like him, go for it! I don’t think you can discount what might be a great relationship just because he isn’t the ‘usual’ age of your boyfriends. You might even get a taste for toyboys ;)

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 19:43

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Widgibob wrote:

Surely when you feel a guy of 18 will feel like a fluffy bunny and a bloke of 41 more like a leather belt, unless he washes in that leather softener but then he’d smell wired :eek:

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 19:44

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hoochalobster (Sarah) Super Moderator wrote:

Ci? wrote:

ah ah don’t be mean…remember ur only as old as the person u feel…so in that case he’s only 18!!!

Does that make Daisy 41? :D

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 19:54

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Lola* wrote:

…hadn’t really thought about her feeling him!!!

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 19:56

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Bad Karma wrote:

I’m 22 the youngest person i have been out with was 16 (but i thought she was 18 honest guv) and the oldest i have been out with is 33 but she looked about 25.

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 21:19

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Citizen Erased wrote:

6 years and 11 months age gap - we’ve been together just over 5 years and fit really well together it would seem. Age difference really only matters to 2 people,although how realistc those people are being is a different matter, depends what you want from the relationshship

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 23:51

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dano wrote:

Body Bag Girl Iris wrote:

Well… I’ve met this guy and he’s only 22. I’m 28, normally I would only date men that are about 10 years older, so this is a big difference. I can talk to him about so many things I normally can’t talk to with 28+… it’s so strange, ‘cause I do think about his age all the time.
Nothing is happening and we are just friends right now, but I do maybe like him a bit more :D So now you know ;)

I don’t get it Iris, you have an age requirement for a boyfriend? It doesn’t make sense to me, if you like somebody you just go for it!

Posted on Thu, 25 September 2003 at 23:58

#23

Citizen Erased wrote:

dano wrote:

if you like somebody you just go for it!

OR wonder til it drives you mad
What would have happened if you had

Posted on Fri, 26 September 2003 at 00:11

#24

Daisy wrote:

trigger wrote:

you gotta be kidding, right?
if not why do you call him ‘boy’friend? :p

Not kidding. And I usually refer to him as ‘The Missus’, but boyfriend is just easier all round.

Widgibob wrote:

Surely when you feel a guy of 18 will feel like a fluffy bunny and a bloke of 41 more like a leather belt, unless he washes in that leather softener but then he’d smell wired :eek:

He feels lovely ;)

hoochalobster wrote:

Does that make Daisy 41? :D

Mentally, I pretty much am.

Posted on Fri, 26 September 2003 at 12:13

#25

Nitro wrote:

It was 6 years ago, I had a girlfriend whose previous boyfriend was 15 years older than her. She told me that all her friends were saying things about him. But, the comment made by her father was the best:

“Look, now you’re 20, he’s 35. Think about the future. If you marry him, when you’re 35-40 he’ll be 50-55. When you’re at the best ages for sex, he will be about to lose his sex power!!”

Posted on Fri, 26 September 2003 at 13:06

#26

Barbie wrote:

Body Bag Girl Iris wrote:

Well… I’ve met this guy and he’s only 22. I’m 28, normally I would only date men that are about 10 years older, so this is a big difference. I can talk to him about so many things I normally can’t talk to with 28+… it’s so strange, ‘cause I do think about his age all the time.
Nothing is happening and we are just friends right now, but I do maybe like him a bit more :D So now you know ;)

what have you got to lose? Toyboys are great. Having said that I feel a bit guilty for being currently obsessed with a 16 year old, me being 19. It’s not good but if we were in our 20s it would be fine.

Posted on Fri, 26 September 2003 at 13:36

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RobbyVDH wrote:

zm wrote:

The difference now is only 4 years.

4 years?? Don’t you think this guy is too old for you :D??

Posted on Sat, 27 September 2003 at 16:52

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Jaegermeister wrote:

A good friend of mine is 24 by now and her “boyfriend” is 42. They are a couple since 5 years, I think they are going to marry someday.
I myself like to date guys about 30+ since I was 16.:)

Posted on Sat, 27 September 2003 at 21:22

#29

Daisy wrote:

Jaegermeister wrote:

I myself like to date guys about 30+ since I was 16.:)

Yeah! I have never been with a guy my own age/ younger then me.

Think my smallest age gap was 6 years. (Heh, notice I dont say how old I was at the time!)

Posted on Sat, 27 September 2003 at 22:42

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RobbyVDH wrote:

Daisy wrote:

Yeah! I have never been with a guy my own age/ younger then me.

Me too!!!!!!! Probably because I fancy women :D !

Posted on Sat, 27 September 2003 at 22:47

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